aww crap orion, I wrote a long reply and it looks like I accidentally got side tracked, forgot to send it and then closed my browser when I had too many tabs open, LMAO!.
I made a change a few weeks back that would have improved it slightly, but what I really need is for you to give it a try. Also, I need to know what type of system you're having problems on. And if you're using windows, try the glestadv-i686.exe instead of the glestadv-sse2.exe. Please do this with 0.1.9 and let me know (be sure and include what type of processor, how much memory and what OS).
I'm working on the 0.2 branch right now, I'm revamping the network interface so that we shouldn't have cross-platform net incompatibilities. However, just know that 0.1.9 gets out of sync in multiplayer, so save often if you use it to play multi. At least you can resume if your game goes out of sync though